CUSTODY AND CO-PARENTING FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Children do best when parents reduce conflict and focus on stability. Keeping communication respectful, avoiding negative comments about the other parent, and following consistent parenting schedules can help children feel secure while families transition after separation.

Common co-parenting mistakes include speaking negatively about the other parent in front of the child, using the child as a messenger, sending emotional or hostile messages, refusing reasonable schedule flexibility, and involving children in adult disputes.

Judges typically look for parents who prioritize their child’s wellbeing, communicate respectfully with the other parent, and demonstrate a willingness to cooperate when possible. Courts often favor parents who reduce conflict and support healthy relationships between children and both parents.

BIFF communication stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. It is a communication method used in high-conflict co-parenting situations to keep messages short, neutral, and focused on necessary information. BIFF responses help reduce escalation and create written communication that is appropriate if reviewed by a judge.

Communicate, Cooperate, and Compromise
Effective co-parenting requires child-focused communication, respectful interactions, and a willingness to cooperate and compromise. Parents should follow clear parenting plans, keep messages brief and neutral, and prioritize stability for their children. These strategies help reduce conflict and support healthier outcomes for families.